Comments on: A Search Guide for Birth Parents/Adoptees/Foster Youth http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/ From one who spent 18 years/16moves in this dreadfully broken system! Tue, 15 Dec 2009 19:23:02 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Erin Cummings http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-724 Erin Cummings Sat, 11 Jul 2009 04:36:28 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-724 Hello, My name is Erin Cummings and i am searching for my Brother Arthur who was adopted in the year of 1986. He is the last sibling that i need to find. I have a sister that i lived with all my life because we were adopted together and another brother whose girlfriend found me over myspace. But now i am trying to find my other brother arthur he was adopted in haverhill in 1986 and the last thing that my birth mother remembers is that he and his adoptive parents moved to new hampshire. Got any advise. Hello,
My name is Erin Cummings and i am searching for my Brother Arthur who was adopted in the year of 1986. He is the last sibling that i need to find. I have a sister that i lived with all my life because we were adopted together and another brother whose girlfriend found me over myspace. But now i am trying to find my other brother arthur he was adopted in haverhill in 1986 and the last thing that my birth mother remembers is that he and his adoptive parents moved to new hampshire.
Got any advise.

]]> By: Christina Howard http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-657 Christina Howard Sat, 02 May 2009 04:02:03 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-657 My half brother just found me yesterday. On both sides we have all been looking for each other for years, him & my birth mom & me for her, I didn't know I had siblings since I was adopted out when she was young. It is all so overwhelming and amazing & I am a little in shock that the search is finally over & voulah I have a family!! I have only talked to him so far & I am waiting to talk to her for another day, it's just a lot for one day, we talked for like 8 hours total I think. I like the idea you gave about giving her something, I wish I could but since we are all far apart, I think it will just have to be over the phone for now. I'm so happy & a little sad all wrapped up together. Finally a face that looks like mine!! I don't know if I ever thought this day would come. Thank you for sharing your story. My half brother just found me yesterday. On both sides we have all been looking for each other for years, him & my birth mom & me for her, I didn’t know I had siblings since I was adopted out when she was young. It is all so overwhelming and amazing & I am a little in shock that the search is finally over & voulah I have a family!! I have only talked to him so far & I am waiting to talk to her for another day, it’s just a lot for one day, we talked for like 8 hours total I think. I like the idea you gave about giving her something, I wish I could but since we are all far apart, I think it will just have to be over the phone for now. I’m so happy & a little sad all wrapped up together. Finally a face that looks like mine!! I don’t know if I ever thought this day would come. Thank you for sharing your story.

]]> By: Heather Caton http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-605 Heather Caton Tue, 28 Oct 2008 15:44:04 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-605 Looking for my half Brother Isaac Alan MacRae - I know his adopted name is Isaac Dearing. He would be approx 13-14 years old. Adoption was finalized in 2004. My father - who is his father passed away a year ago. Just wanted to reach out. I am wondering if I should wait until he is 18 years old before I really starting searching? Any thoughts... Looking for my half Brother Isaac Alan MacRae – I know his adopted name is Isaac Dearing. He would be approx 13-14 years old. Adoption was finalized in 2004. My father – who is his father passed away a year ago. Just wanted to reach out. I am wondering if I should wait until he is 18 years old before I really starting searching? Any thoughts…

]]> By: peggy http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-546 peggy Wed, 28 May 2008 01:01:44 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-546 I am a birth mom in search of 3 adoptees. born april 11,1983 march 28,1984 august 12,1985. been looking since day one. peggy I am a birth mom in search of 3 adoptees. born april 11,1983 march 28,1984 august 12,1985. been looking since day one. peggy

]]> By: prairieguy http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-407 prairieguy Mon, 26 Nov 2007 22:27:29 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-407 Thingschange~ I am sorry your relationship with oyur husband and his with his adopted family are in turmoil. However, his daughter had a right to know...whether he knew it or not. As for his birth mother I also feel she had a right to search. It is not done out of curiosity but rather wanting to know where one came fro, their heritage and even medical info which may prove vital to know. I don't know how his birth mother or daughter handled things so I cannot say anything about that. I would hope you as well as his adoptive parents would be supportive of him, he means no harm to either and I am sure his BM or daughter also do not intend any harm. Whether any are hoping for a relationship...I would say that is up to the parties directly involved. I hope you can see the importantance for one to know as well as accepting it is their RIGHT TO KNOW. I hope finally that reconciliation can happen for all involved. Peace, Prairieguy Thingschange~

I am sorry your relationship with oyur husband and his with his adopted family are in turmoil. However, his daughter had a right to know…whether he knew it or not. As for his birth mother I also feel she had a right to search. It is not done out of curiosity but rather wanting to know where one came fro, their heritage and even medical info which may prove vital to know.

I don’t know how his birth mother or daughter handled things so I cannot say anything about that.

I would hope you as well as his adoptive parents would be supportive of him, he means no harm to either and I am sure his BM or daughter also do not intend any harm.

Whether any are hoping for a relationship…I would say that is up to the parties directly involved.

I hope you can see the importantance for one to know as well as accepting it is their RIGHT TO KNOW.

I hope finally that reconciliation can happen for all involved.

Peace,
Prairieguy

]]> By: thingschange http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-406 thingschange Mon, 26 Nov 2007 20:38:42 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-406 my exhusband was not only adopted but had an old girlfriend give their child up (unbeknownst to him at the time). both his birth-mother and his daughter contacted us within a year of one another, and it subsequently ruined not only our relationship but my exhusband's relationship with his adopted family. i can only imagine the hardship and difficulties that wanting to know about your blood family can bring, but please remember that other lives are affected by your curiosity. my exhusband was not only adopted but had an old girlfriend give their child up (unbeknownst to him at the time). both his birth-mother and his daughter contacted us within a year of one another, and it subsequently ruined not only our relationship but my exhusband’s relationship with his adopted family. i can only imagine the hardship and difficulties that wanting to know about your blood family can bring, but please remember that other lives are affected by your curiosity.

]]> By: Gershom http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-22 Gershom Sun, 29 Jul 2007 01:34:44 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-22 This is AWESOME!! This is AWESOME!!

]]> By: mlassi http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-15 mlassi Sat, 28 Jul 2007 18:50:54 +0000 http://prairieguy.wordpress.com/2007/07/28/a-search-guide-for-birth-parentsadopteesfoster-youth/#comment-15 Great search tips! My search for my bmother took 20 years but luckily my brithfather took only five minutes to find. Great search tips! My search for my bmother took 20 years but luckily my brithfather took only five minutes to find.

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