A Suggested Gift for a Found Birthparent

Might I make a suggestion? If you find one of your birth parents and a reunion is planned I have an idea for a gift. When I met my birthmother for the first time at Newark Airport in 1986, I gave her thirty-six red roses; one for each of the thirty-six years of the life [...]

25 Years Have Passed Since Finding Birthmother

I was sitting around doing nothing a few days ago and suddenly the thought came into my mind; today, March 25th would be the 25th anniversary since I found my birthmother. First I could not believe that 25 years had already passed. Secondly it caused me to reflect back on my 4 year search, 12 [...]

60 Years Ago Today!!

Sixty years ago today, in the early hours of the morning, a young nineteen year old unwed woman gave birth to her first child…a son. She spent most of her pregnancy in a home for unwed mothers as her father would not, as he said, allow a bastard child in his house. She was uneducated [...]

Fargo/Moorhead Youth Fill the Dome Project Exceeds Goal!

My blog normally includes articles written by me or others I find on the Internet about foster care, thus the title of my blog. However I am so proud of the youth here in my hometown community of Fargo, North Dakota/Moorhead, Minnasota that I just have to share this story beyond our area. In the [...]

Story of a Surviving Orphan Train Rider

From the mid 1850′s to to 1930 over 200,000 youth were moved by train across the United States. Many were adopted while others ended up in orphanages or other type of foster care. In some cases their families knew of the move and in other cases the youth were just removed from the streets and [...]

All They Want for Christmas!

Almost fifty-eight years ago, in the early hours of one morning, a young nineteen year old unwed woman gave birth to her first child…a boy. She spent most of her pregnancy in a home for unwed mothers as her father would not, as he said, allow a bastard child in his house. She was uneducated [...]

Family Medical History…What About Adoptees?

Former U.S. Surgeon General Richard H. Carmona in 2005 began an initiative to encourage supposedly ALL Americans to learn about their families’ health histories. This would be a way of promoting personal health and preventing diseases.  He has even collaborated with others to offer a new web site and free computer program to help families [...]

My Story in Newspaper

I was fortunate that during August/September 2004 a reporter and photographer spent several hours with me to prepare articles sharing my story in my then hometown nespaper, “Midland Daily News.” To my surprise when the articles appeared they were on the front page of the October 3, 2004 (Sunday) front page on top of the [...]

A Search Guide for Birth Parents/Adoptees/Foster Youth

I created this special tips blog for adult adoptees, birth parents and some foster children, as I am a strong proponent of “open records.” I believe every person has a birth- given right to know who they are and where they and their ancestors come from. If states will not pass open records laws for [...]

Was Search for Birth Family Worth It?

Having done a successful search for my birth family, but a not so positive reunion…I still say the journey was worth it! I began my journey years ago after suffering a heart attack at age thirty-one and having to answer the embarrassing question from the doctors about family medical history with a, “I don’t know.” [...]

Why Search for Birth Family?

Why search? Why not leave the past alone? What do you hope to gain from your search? These were just a few of the questions asked of me during the course of my search. Most questions came from people who were raised by their birth parents. They knew their heritage. They had extended family to [...]

First Letter to Birth Mother~

Baby Larry at 3 days old…taken at hospital nursery to be placed in the “Babies Available for Adoption Book. A letter I wrote to prepare to send to my birth mother if I found her. It was not necessary to send as I found her and we connected via a telephone call. Dear Mother~  It [...]

Questions for My Birth Mother

This was written from the time I began searching for my birth mother until her death…a period of over 20 years.  Did you know what it was you gave away?  What was it to you?  Was it a mistake perhaps that could be erased by a simple act of false generosity.  Was it easy for [...]

Maybe

This was written one night after a person challenged why I was searching for my birth family at the age of thirty-two having never been raised by them.   So this is what I know. I was given away when I was born. That’s the cold hard truth. Call it relinquished if you’d rather, but [...]