Foster Youth/Parents Bill of Rights!

I have been spending a lot of time lately researching the issue of “Bill of Rights” for foster youth/parents.

I have previously addressed the need for biological parents rights when faced with allegations which may result in removal of a child from their home. This was done when I addressed reform of Child Protective Services. 

I believe that when a youth is removed from their home and placed in foster care they as well as their foster parents should be guarenteed certain rights for each of their protection and best interest.

I have found this is not the case today for foster youth and is quite limited when it comes to foster parents.

Let me address each below:


My research has unfortunately discovered that neither the federal government nor any of the states have passed into law a bill of rights for youth placed in foster care. The Feds and states have general guidelines which does not have the backing of law, many are not enforced, no consequences result for failure.

A few states have in recent years attempted to pass such laws but have not been successful The most recent state was Texas this year but it died in their House after the Senate had passed it.

This puts the youth at the mercy of a system that is broken and severely damages the youth in many cases.

Below is a Foster Child Bill of Rights that was suggested in 1973 and reaffirmed in 1983 though never adopted by the states or federal government:
Foster Child Bill of Rights

Ratified in Congress Hall, Philadelphia
Saturday, the Twenty-eighth of April, Nineteen Hundred and Seventy Three

Reaffirmed during the National Focus on Foster Care Conference, Norfolk, Virginia Wednesday, the Fourth of May, Nineteen Hundred and Eighty Three

Even more than for other children, society has a responsibility, along with parents, for the well-being of children in foster care. Citizens are responsible for acting to insure their welfare.

Every child in foster care is endowed with the rights inherently belonging to all children. In addition, because of the temporary or permanent separation from, and loss of, parents and other family members, the child requires special safeguards, resources, and care.


Article the first
….to be cherished by a family of his own, either his family helped by readily available services and supports to resume his care, or an adoptive family or, by plan, a continuing foster family.

Article the second
….to be nurtured by foster parents who have been selected to meet his individual needs, and who are provided services and supports, including specialized education, so that they can grow in their ability to enable the child to reach his potentiality.

Article the third
….to receive sensitive, continuing help in understanding and accepting the reasons for his own family’s inability to take care of him, and in developing confidence in his own self worth.

Article the fourth
….to receive continuing loving care and respect as a unique human being…a child growing in trust in himself and others.

Article the fifth
….to grow up in freedom and dignity in a neighborhood of people who accept him with understanding, respect and friendship.

Article the sixth
….to receive help in overcoming deprivation or whatever distortion in his emotional, physical, intellectual, social and spiritual growth may have resulted from his early experiences.

Article the seventh
….to receive education, training, and career guidance to prepare for a useful and satisfying life.

Article the eighth
….to receive preparation for citizenship and parenthood through interaction with foster parents and other adults who are consistent role models.

Article the ninth
….to be represented by an attorney-at-law in administrative or judicial proceedings with access to fair hearings and court review of decisions, so that his best interests are safeguarded.

 Article the tenth
….to receive a high quality of child welfare services, including involvement of the natural parents and his own involvement in major decisions that affect his life.

Foster youth in recent years have themselves suggested a bill of rights as well:

As a youth in foster care, you have the right:*

 To know your rights in foster care, to receive a list of those rights in written form and to know how to file a complaint if your rights are being violated.

 To be told why you came into foster care and why you are still in foster care.

 To live in a safe and healthy home where treated with respect, with your own place to store your things and where you receive healthy food, adequate clothing, and appropriate personal hygiene products.

 To have personal belongings secure and transported with you in a humane, dignified fashion.

 To have caring foster parents or caretakers who are properly trained, have received background checks and screenings, and who receive adequate support form the Agency to help ensure stability in the placement.

 To be placed in a home with your brothers and sisters when possible, and to maintain regular and unrestricted contact with siblings when separated (including help with transportation), unless ordered by the court.

 To attend school and participate in extracurricular, cultural, and personal enrichment activities.

 To have your privacy protected. You can expect confidentiality from the adults involved in your case.

 To be protected from physical, sexual, emotional or other abuse, including corporal punishment (hitting or spanking as a punishment) and being locked in a room (unless you are in a treatment facility).

 To receive medical, dental, vision and mental health services.

 To refuse to take medications, vitamins or herbs, unless prescribed by a doctor.

 To have an immediate visit after placement and have regular visits ongoing with biological parents and other relatives unless prohibited by court or unless you don’t want to.

 To make and receive confidential telephone calls and send and receive unopened mail, unless prohibited by court order.

 To have regular contact from and unrestricted access to social workers, attorneys, and advocates and to be allowed to have confidential conversations with such individuals.

 To be told by your social worker and your attorney about any changes in your case plan or placement and receive honest information about the decisions the Agency is making that affect your life.

 To attend religious services and activities of your choice and to preserve your cultural heritage. If possible your placement should be with a family member or someone from your community with similar religion, culture and/or heritage.

 To be represented by an attorney at law in administrative or judicial proceedings with access to fair hearing and court review of decisions, so that your best interest are safeguarded.

 To be involved, where appropriate, in the development of your case plan and to object to any of the provisions of the case plan during case reviews, court hearings and case planning conferences.

 To Attend court and speak to a judge (at a certain age, usually 12) about what you want to have happen in your case.

 To have a plan for your future, including an emancipation plan if appropriate (for leaving foster care when you become an adult), and to be provided services to help you prepare to become a successful adult.

 To not be discriminated against based on gender, religion, physical-mental or emotional disability, age, race or sexual orientation.

* Unless restricted by law,restricted by the court or not age appropriate.

I would strongly suggest that the suggested bill of rights be combined in some fashion and legislation be passed in Congress mandating a Foster Youth Bills of rights to be followed in every state and county in the US and that an enforcement clause to be added along with penalties for failure to follow. I also suggest that foster youth be given the right to sue in federal court when these rights are not adhered to.


Things are a bit different with foster parents, that is some states have passed a bill of rights law for foster parents. Unfortunately only 18 states have done so thus far.

The following are the states which have enacted a Foster Parent Bill of Rights:
Alabama, Arkansas, California, Colorado, Georgia,
Illinois, Iowa, Kentucky, Louisiana, Maryland,  Missouri, Mississippi, New Mexico, Oklahoma, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Tennessee, Washington

This leaves 32 states and the District of Columbia without any such law.

Since each of these laws are lengthy I will not attempt to put them on this blog entry. However, here is the link you may go to in order to review each state’s law, except Iowa.

I have read and reviewed each of the laws and have noticed each lacks an enforcement clause and their is no penalty for failure to follow the law. This then allows the counties in each state to interput the law as they please without penalty.

Just as with a Bill of Rights for Foster Youth I feel legislation must be introduced and passed in Congress to mandate a bill of rights to be followed uniformly in each state and counties within the states. This law also must contain an enforcement clause, penalties for failure to follow and the right for foster parents to sue in federal court if necessary.

In my series of entries regarding reform of the system I also suggested federal laws be passed. Today there is no uniformity of definition for abuse, neglect, etc. which has allowed states to defined it as they please. This has caused major confusion in the system throughout the country.

We must have uniformity of rights for biological parents facing allegations, youth placed in foster care, for foster parents as well as definitions of terms. What applies in one state should apply in every state.

What do you the reader think?

29 Responses

  1. One of the most important rights that foster children should secure is the right to make and MAINTAIN relationships. If those relationships must be SUPERVISED…so be it. When these kids age out of the system it’s not their case workers or their case managers or their psychologists or their psychiatrists that are going to support them financially and/or emotionally. CPS likes to cut foster children off from everyone they have known and loved…bio family, former foster families, friends, siblings, etc. Then when the foster youth is 18 CPS…the only support that has been allowed…kicks them to the curb with a few hundred bucks and a “have a nice life”. THIS IS WRONG!!!

  2. We have this in NY…is this not a Bill of Rights…I see NY is not on the list.

    NYS’s New Permanency Procedures
    Presented by Margaret Burt

    NYS Citizens’ Coalition for Children, Inc.
    17th Annual Statewide Adoption Training Conference
    Adoption 2006: There’s No Place like Home
    May 12-13, 2006 • Albany New York

    By Margaret A. Burt

    Foster parents have a right to a written 10 day notice, an internal formal conference, a fair hearing and ultimately even a court proceeding to contest an agency decision to remove a child from their home regardless of how long the child has been in the home.

    Foster parents have a right to be formally noticed and appear and offer information at all permanency hearing regardless of how long the child has been in the home.

    Foster parents can bring on a TPR matter if the court orders the agency to do so and the agency does not do it within 90 days of being ordered to do so or if the child has been in care 19 months and the agency has not brought a petition.

    Foster parents who have had a child in their home for more than 12 months have a right to notice and to be heard in the dispositional aspects of TPRs, freed child reviews or any hearing that affects custody of the child.

    Foster parents have a preference under law to be considered first as adoptive parents for any child who has been in their care for over 12 months when the child is freed.

    So far the courts have said that foster parents do not have rights to seek visitation or custody orders of former foster children but foster parents have continued to challenge this.

  3. I totally agree that foster children and parents are not treated adequately. I don’t know how much a “Bill of Rights” will help, when the current laws are not enforced. I second what Gotabe said-These kids need stable adults in their lives. They don’t need to bounce around from home to home with no connection to prior homes. Good luck!

  4. Grayson…though the writer for what you sent calls it a Bill fo Rights for NY FP…it is actually are strictly rights for permanancy….which is far more than most states have done. I don’t think even the states who have a Bill of Rights for FPs cover rights for permanancy as NY does.

    I will be including things like this when I draw up my bill of rights….thank you very much for what you sent as google did not bring this to my attention!.


    • Dear Larry and other FP,

      My husband and I write from Maryland where a Bill of Rights has proven to be nothing. It is amazing to me that social workers, who fail to do their jobs, have the right to do whatever they wish to the children when they rarely even know them. FP live with the children every day. We help them transition to a life they deserve and just when they come to appreciate respect, stability and kindness, they are forced to leave a home or return, often times, to homes that are clearly unstable. Each child we had was wonderful regardless of the reports from social workers who are either fresh out of school and have been indoctrinated in reunification or so burnt out that they don’t care. These children are our most vulnerable citizens and I hope to mobilize a group that stands up to Congress and States and demand reform. I would love to see you Bill of Rights. I would love to see our precious children treated with respect and honesty. They are a sad reflection of our society at large.
      Here’s to better days…

      • Have you been able to do anything to felp foster children? We are going through something very painful right now with our foster children. We want our voices heard. We don’t know what to do.

      • My web site has my E mail address where you can write me directly if you wish.

  5. I agree that the laws for foster parents and foster child need to be reinforced. I live in California. It doesn’t do any good to have the laws when they are not followed. I will suppose any bill that states this has to be reinforced and followed uniformly by the states and counties and the foster parents have the right to sue if this is not done. I was one of those foster parents who fought for a and foster child. Instead they have continued to move her multiply times in the foster care system. She is now 17 and soon to be out of the system unadopted with no consistancy in a family life. Scary and Sad!!!! WE NEED CHANGE. I have written a book about this horrifying experience that should never have happened not only to me but to many others. Thank you for putting this on the internet.

    • What is the name of your book, please?

    • we gave up a 14 year old that we had for 22 ms, 60 days ago and boy was we wrong after a few days we wanted we missed her . After 5 weeks she was put in a hospital for acting out we went to see she wants to come home, we told d.s.s. that we wanted to adopt ,Well it seems DSS is working against that , they move her from the hosp. to GOD ONLY KNOWS WHERE. The doctor was her coming home with think after 10 yrs. of f c they would have been all for it. But you know we have all of that RED tape .After 22 days in the hospital at Christmas not a one of them darken the door to see her . My wife and i went 5 times,which dss did not approve of, well I guess I need to see my attorney

  6. Just had a moment here, nut… Our local DHS does not do a lot of this. Even when you try to get info you have to basically force them and it is only the minimum. I have yet to see a file. CASA tells me lore. I have run into a few othoer foster partents, but they do not like us talking. I’ll think on this and add more later.

  7. Georgia has a bill of rights but DFCS does not adhere to them. They do have a grievance procedure that begins with the Director of your county DFCS. Now if the problem happens to be with that director, who also is in the position to remove a child, give a final say on adoption, etc, how can you file a grievance?? It pretty much ties your hands by mandating all grievances start at the local office. We have been through abuse of power, retaliation, etc and have not been able to do anything under threat of removal of our fc. Once we finalize adoption we are done and then we will file a grievance and pursue things. I think federal guidelines are essential to real changes, along with more DFCS accountability and the right of fc/fp to sue for damages. What goes on is ugly and horrifying…….

  8. Hi,
    I see that you have Louisiana listed as a state that has fp rights. You are correct in the fact that they do not enforce this. I agree with you that since they do not enforce these rights, that it is no different than not having them at all. I really do think this is INSANE and it is doing nothing except hurting the children.

  9. I do think that a basic set of standards/rights are necessary across the country. I think all states should have uniform standards/rights, so no matter where you live, you know what your rights are.

    I think you have to be careful to determine basic human rights as opposed to entitlement programs.

    I like the Oregon model that was developed after a foster child named Cassie was returned to the bios and killed a short time later.

    The law needs to have teeth so it is enforceable. Penalties need to be severe enough to foster adherence.

    Larry, thank you thank you thank you for all that you do!

  10. Hi Larry,

    I have to agree with what Cassidy posted. None of rights are enforced in Louisiana either. Each foster parent or family is provided with a book of guidelines that must be followed by all of the foster parents in Louisiana.

    Most of the time when allegations are made against the foster parents, they are not treated with respect, and go under investigation immediately, and the foster parents are not usually told what ALL of the allegations are. The parish supervisor over OCS can have the children removed from a home immediately not even considering the emotional stress it puts the children and the foster parents.

    If it is something obvious that shows to be threatening to the child(ren) it is understandable to have them immediately removed from the foster parents that are currently “caring” for them for their protection.

    Another thing I have noticed and appears to be obvious in all of the states, the foster parents are not given all of the information about the child(ren) that have been placed in foster care so the case workers can get a foster parent or family to take them under their roof.

    I believe the foster parent or family should have to right to have the child(ren) they are currently fostering removed immediately if the child(ren) have aggressive problems where they will intentionally try to physically and emotionally hurt the foster parent or family. This may not need to be applied (up to a certain point) unless it is very severe and the foster parent or family is told up front about the problem and decide to take the child(ren) under their care.

    There are many times when the case workers will try to get a foster parent or family to take a child under their care even if the reasons the child(ren) is removed from the parents do not meet the limitations that are listed by the foster parent or family. These limitations are available for all case workers to view immediately when they try to find a home to have a child placed in.

    We have been told during training and by the parish supervisors over OCS that each case is a team effort. So why aren’t the foster parents allowed to attend ALL meetings concerning the child(ren) they are caring for? We should be able to attend ALL meetings concerning the cases since we know more about the child(ren) under our care, which is because we are them on an everyday basis, and the case workers, supervisors, regional managers, attorneys, and judges are not.

    One of the main things that many of us foster parents cannot stand is being lied to and lied about!! Then we don’t even have the right or it is not enforced to voice our opinion when things like this are noticed, and are usually “tucked under the rug” and forgotten about. If we continue to bring subjects like that to the case workers and their supervisor’s, or even the regional manager’s attention, then we are usually put on the bottom of the list and are not called unless no one else can be found within a couple of days after the child(ren) is placed in the foster system.

    I just wonder if any other radio stations are announcing a statement paid for by Louisiana about how the foster system is so great now, and that it is great idea to consider fostering and/or adopting. We can all tell that the system is not great, but is broken, so they don’t need to be announcing things like that all. It frustrates me every time I hear that on the radio.

    I hope things like this will help open a great number of eyes in our Congress and get reform underway ASAP.

  11. Thank you all for your comments…your taking the time to leave them mean a lot to me.

    Special thanks to Cassidy & Mike for detailing the situation in LA. I know many other states could easily replace the name of LA with their state name.

    I am going to let this entry go on for a few eeks then I will begin work on compiling what I believe would be a good set of Bill of Rights for both youth & foster parents, taking comments received into account, and prepare to send to congrssional delegation, both House & Senate.


  12. I appreciate what you’re doing, Larry. I know that attention needs to be brought to these problems and light needs to be shed on all the underhanded things that go on. Our state is one of those that does NOT have a fp bill of rights. But as the others have said, it probably wouldn’t make a difference if we did because #1 – they’d never tell us we had one in the first place #2 – the people we’d have to talk to about any problems would be directly tied to the agency, so we’d risk having our kids yanked and/or being blacklisted from being able to help other foster children in need. We just have to smile and nod an awful lot — not always easy. There definitely needs to be some reform. Our officials need to realize how horribly underfunded foster care is and make it a priority. The time lines already established need to be adhered to, cws need to be required to be prepared for each hearing, and judges need to decide things in the kids’ favors — and quit feeling so sorry about the bios and worrying about protecting their rights so that they completely forget about the child’s right to love, safety, food on a regular basis, a clean bed, and health care.

    I think fps and fc should be permitted to have some sort of visitation at least for a while after RU. It’s awful that kids are yanked from one home to the next with little or no transition and little or no warning. There’s got to be a better way. How can the fc ever learn to love and to trust if they feel their fps abandoned them when they were moved or RU — and we can’t get ahold of them to tell them otherwise.

    Thanks again for all you’re doing to bring attention to these issues.

  13. hi to all. first i would like to say that it is a welcome awakening to see all the responses,this lets me know that i am not in this fight alone. i have had my niece for nearly ten years. she is mild retardation and has cerebral palsy. she came home through foster care from florida to ny in 1999 and has come a long way with several operations and a great deal of therapy. with a lot of praying and love and patience we got through it. but i think the foster care system in florida has to be administered by the most antiquated thinking people on the face of this planet. and to add insult to injury,they have the nerve to give you arrogance and attitude to go with their ignorance. foster children and foster parents deserve does my heart good at the age that i am (62) to see good people standing up and speaking out. i have found with my own personal fight with the state of florida,and dcf, as well as florida’s court system,which plays a big part with what the state and dcf foster system get away with that they feel that they are better than us( foster children and parents). i know there are some foster parents and children advocacy groups out there,but i have to ask myself just how effective are they. there’s just too much grief and and sorrow and no help. right now i’m fighting the state of florida for ssi benefits that belongs to my niece after given authorization to apply on her behalf through the interstate compact agreement, florida waited 2 years and without any notification from the state of florida they positioned themselves as the representative payee via court order and diverted her ssi to the state. i know most of you have been involved with dcf and other foster care /adoption agencies much longer than i and you each have your story to tell, but i believe that if the grassroot’s of foster care was to rise up nationally and make it known that they are not going to tolerate their crap anymore you would see a big change in the way they deal with good foster parents who are dedicated to their children and their welfare.

  14. I do not think the “real” parents, the ones who gave birth to the child are treated as fairly as the foster people. The county treats the “bio” parents as second class citizens and try to find anything and everything wrong with them even if there is nothing to find or nothing to fix.

    There needs to be a bio parent bill of rights as well as one for their children and it must also state that they have a right to not have anyone use their belongings, what few they have of their own.

    There are so many other things I would love to list. I think the bios get a bad rap especially the ones who had their children removed for something other than abuse or neglect.

    There needs to be a watch dog group and there needs to be court room observers to oversee the judges and their decisions on things, especially in the county where I live. If the county hates you then you have absolutely no way to overcome this. They will always be watching even when you get your kids back.

    Being that I am a victim of a crime I plan on getting my SSN changed as well as my name and hopefully will start over when my children come back.

    In the meantime the illegalities of the county and the caseworkers who “get a high off of removing kids” as one caseworker put it continues.

  15. I am a foster mom who picked up a little baby boy from the hospital when he was 2 days old. He is now 16months old and they are getting ready to take him away from my family and give him to his 51 year old great aunt. She was called in the beginning but wasn’t interested (afraid his mom would get him back) but after she saw the birth mom wouldn’t get him and he didn’t have any birth defects, She decided to persue him. He was then 8-9months old. I don’t think this is fair to me as a foster parent hoping to adopt. They tell me here in KY I have no rights! That any family member takes priorty over me no matter how long we keep him or even if she changed her mind. The dad wasn’t identified until he was 14months old. So the Dad side would like us to adopt him since he has already formed such a bond with us. BUT THE SOCIAL WORKERS ARE IN CHARGE, NOT THE PARENTS OR ANYONE WHO ACTUALLY CARES ABOUT THE CHILD. I have saw first hand that their priorty is simply closing the case on their desk. What a shame, the system is such a failure. There are so many loving couples here in the US that would like to adopt. Now I see why so many go to countries outside the US.

    Pray for us,
    Foster MOM

  16. I just wanted to point out that California DOES have a Foster Youth Bill of Rights and if the rights are violated by foster parents, the foster parents can be fined, reprimanded or have the children removed from their care.
    1. To live in a safe, healthy, and comfortable home where he or she is treated
    with respect.
    2. To be free from physical, sexual, emotional, or other abuse, or corporal
    3. To receive adequate and healthy food, adequate clothing, and, for youth in
    group homes, an allowance.
    4. To receive medical, dental, vision, and mental health services.
    5. To be free of the administration of medication or chemical substances,
    unless authorized by a physician.
    6. To contact family members, unless prohibited by court order, and social
    workers, attorneys, foster youth advocates and supporters, Court Appointed
    Special Advocates (CASA), and probation officers.
    7. To visit and contact brothers and sisters, unless prohibited by court order.
    8. To contact the Community Care Licensing Division of the State Department
    of Social Services or the State Foster Care Ombudsperson regarding
    violations of rights, to speak to representatives of these offices
    confidentially, and to be free from threats or punishment for making
    9. To make and receive confidential telephone calls and send and receive
    unopened mail, unless prohibited by court order.
    10. To attend religious services and activities of his or her choice.11. To maintain an emancipation bank account and manage personal income,
    consistent with the child’s age and developmental level, unless prohibited by
    the case plan.
    12. To not be locked in any room, building, or facility premises, unless placed in a
    community treatment facility.
    13. To attend school and participate in extracurricular, cultural, and personal
    enrichment activities, consistent with the child’s age and developmental
    14. To work and develop job skills at an age-appropriate level that is consistent
    with state law.
    15. To have social contacts with people outside of the foster care system, such
    as teachers, church members, mentors, and friends.
    16. To attend Independent Living Program classes and activities if he or she
    meets age requirements.
    17. To attend court hearings and speak to the judge.
    18. To have storage space for private use.
    19. To review his or her own case plan if he or she is over 12 years of age and to
    receive information about his or her out-of-home placement and case plan,
    including being told of changes to the plan.
    20. To be free from unreasonable searches of personal belongings.
    21. To confidentiality of all juvenile court records consistent with existing law.
    22. To have fair and equal access to all available services, placement, care,
    treatment, and benefits, and to not be subjected to discrimination or
    harassment on the basis of actual or perceived race, ethnic group
    identification, ancestry, national origin, color, religion, sex, sexual
    orientation, gender identity, mental or physical disability, or HIV status.
    23. At 16 years of age or older, to have access to existing information
    regarding the educational options available, including, but not limited to, the
    coursework necessary for vocational and postsecondary educational
    programs, and information regarding financial aid for postsecondary
    California legislation can be found at
    The foster youth rights poster can be found at
    California Ombudsman for Foster Care
    Phone: 1-877-846-1602

  17. Jeff~

    From your comments:

    “if the rights are violated by foster parents, the foster parents can be fined, reprimanded or have the children removed from their care”

    Notice many of the rights in CA petain to the system providing rights…what happens to them when they fail the youth…would be nice if you had addressed this issue as this is where much of the failure system happens..not with the foster parents!!!!

  18. I agree! I am a Foster parent constantly fighting the abuse of our horrid system here in CA, especially in Fresno County which runs things separate from the State.
    And as far as foster parents rights, they do not exist here!

  19. I was a foster child in CPS three years ago I age out when I was in Foster care I did not get told my rights I did not no you have rights. I was abuse hurt nobody was their for me no body cared for me nobody love me nobody help me. I felt alone I felt hurt. But now I am fighting back for other foster youth I am going to make shore that these rights be enforce, I will fight for foster youth and I will also fight for foster parents rights in every state. When you grow up in CPS and age out and then fight for other youth people believe in you because you walk in those foster youth foot steps. I am going to run a campaign Called Brice Saving Foster Youth I am going to fight to the hardest I can and I am not going to stop. Until the congress enforce Foster Youth Bill of Rights and Foster Parents Bill of Rights in every state. Its time somebody put their foot down because just sending congress letters is not going to do a dam thing. You have to stand up and get a large group of people frome each state and fight this and win it. I have the brains I have the energy I have the Power to fight this to the end. As long as I live I will make dam shore these rights get enforce. I am a icon to many I am a Idol to all I will go from sea to shiney sea and then some to get this mess fix. The United States was made from bill of rights If we all stand together we will win this battle. My name is Brice Abraham and I am here now so now things are going to change trust me this will happen.

  20. This is a good share. Thank you!

  21. I am not a foster parent, but my great grandchildren are in foster care in Louisiana, namely Calcasieu Parish. These people have more rights than the IRS, Wetlands or any state/government agency. These people have a tendency to take every thing you say and turn it inside out to suit their own situation. What a way to keep a position/job. It is like reading 5 pages in a novel and already knowing the plot of the story, so why look any further.
    I do think that when someone makes a complaint, they should be investigated for creditably before action is taken. In this case my grand daughter in law’s stepmother made the complaint. “She knows people”. WOW! That almost scares me. LOL
    To make a long story short, the kids are the ones that are HURT. Foster parents took the three kids into the house. (Notice I did not say home). Within a couple of months decided they did not want the 7 year old, so he was put in another home separating him from his siblings. The child likes his new foster parents, and they treat him good. In fact she has stated that she does not care for him to spend the day with the other foster family when he visits his siblings. They have a child of their own of opposite sex and are the same age and apparently spoiled and does no wrong. The foster parents do nothing to her when she hits on my great grand daughter and does not believe it when her brothers say anything. Of course, you know we are not supposed to know this because kids and family are not suppose to speak about what goes on.
    My comment to and for foster parents is, “if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.” But don’t take it out on the kids. I think if you really want to help a child, you have to be able to treat them as your own just like when your kids are older and move on with their lives. I know you have heard the phase, “if you love them, set them free.” At least TRY to love them and not the idea of control. And I do believe that some of the foster parents think like some of the bio. parent. These kids are not a piece of property.
    Not all situations are the same; just because something happens on the other side of town does not mean that the same things happen here. I as a great grand parent has had my amendment violated, such as; freedom of speech. I offered to go live in the house with these kids and that way they would not be uprooted from their home and their familiar surroundings.
    My point is this, all OCS, especially Lake Charles LA, Calcasieu Parish, State of LA, needs to be monitored closer than any other agency in LA or other 49 states.
    This may not help our situation, but thanks for letting me air it out! At least I had the freedom to do so.

    • Please don’t lump all foster parents together. There are good ones out there who love the children unconditionally, respect the biological family and sacrifice everything for the child/children. It is a broken system. There is a need for good foster parents who care about the children above all. We are those kind of foster parents and we’ve been wronged by the system and are fighting back … no matter what it costs. We want our voices heard on behalf of the children we love.

  22. I agree, I would like to create some kind of union for defending Foster parents against abuse, and disrespect. But I do not know where to start….any one?

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